Finding Your Voice: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
An 8-week program that helps you separate your mother's critical voice from your own, release the burden of never feeling good enough, and discover your authentic self!
Are you a woman who has grown up with a narcissistic mother?
Do you often feel overshadowed, unheard, or burdened by a sense of never being good enough?
Do you find yourself still trying to win your mother’s love and approval or seeking the love you never received from her from others?
It’s time to reclaim your voice and embark on a journey of healing and empowerment.
This Program is for You If...
- You Feel Overwhelmed by Your Mother's Influence: If you often hear your mother’s critical voice in your head, dictating your choices and diminishing your self-worth, this program will help you distinguish and reclaim your own voice.
- You Struggle with Self-Worth and Validation: If you find yourself constantly seeking approval and validation from others, especially from your mother, this program will help you understand and affirm your intrinsic value.
- You’ve Experienced Emotional Manipulation: If your mother’s behavior has left you feeling manipulated or controlled, this program will provide you with the tools to set healthy boundaries and regain your personal power.
- You Want to Heal Past Wounds: If unresolved emotional wounds from your childhood continue to affect your relationships and self-perception, this program offers a supportive space for healing and integration.
- You Desire Authentic Self-Expression: If you find it difficult to express your true thoughts, feelings, and desires without fear of judgment or criticism, this program will help you uncover and embrace your authentic self.
- You’re Ready to Release Guilt and Shame: If you carry guilt or shame from not meeting your mother’s expectations, this program will guide you in releasing these burdens and fostering self-compassion.
- You Seek Emotional Independence: If you want to break free from codependency and develop emotional resilience, this program will empower you to cultivate inner strength and autonomy.
- You Long for Inner Peace: If you’re tired of the internal conflict and emotional turmoil caused by a difficult relationship with your mother, this program will help you find peace and acceptance.
- You Want to Improve Your Relationships: If the dynamics with your mother have impacted your other relationships, this program will provide insights and strategies to build healthier, more fulfilling connections.
- You’re Committed to Personal Growth: If you are ready to invest in your personal development and embark on a transformative journey to heal and thrive, this program is designed to support and guide you every step of the way.
My Story
I know for me, I felt like I had spent a lot of my life trying to win the love and approval of my mom, but I never felt good enough.
At the end of the day, everything was about her, even when it wasn’t. Every achievement, every milestone, met with fleeting moments of acknowledgment, quickly followed by criticism. I thought, maybe if I did this, or do that, she will finally love me the way I deserved. But it never happened.
One day I saw how much of my life I had dedicated to pleasing my mom, and I had decided I wasn’t going to do that anymore. That was 13 years ago.
Now, I want to help you find your voice and reclaim your life!
How This Program Will Work
This program is designed to provide a supportive and intimate environment for healing and personal growth. Here’s how it will unfold:
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Week 1 - Introduction:
- Understanding your current relationship with your mother
- Goal setting: Reflect on how you would like your relationship to change and what is stopping you from achieving this.
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Week 2 - Finding Your Voice:
- Learn techniques to distinguish between your thoughts and your mother's critical voice.
- Identify and challenge deeply ingrained beliefs about yourself that stem from your upbringing.
- Practice mindfulness techniques to connect with bodily sensations and emotions associated with different voices (yours vs. your mother's).
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Week 3 - Releasing the Burden of Never Feeling Good Enough
- Explore how feelings of inadequacy were instilled and reinforced by a narcissistic mother.
- Learn techniques to validate your own experiences, feelings, and achievements without seeking external approval.
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Week 4 - Accepting Your Mother
- Examine how holding onto unrealistic expectations for your mother can hinder acceptance and contribute to ongoing frustration and pain.
- Engage in exercises to mourn the loss of the ideal mother you never had, allowing space for acceptance of the mother you do have.
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Week 5 - Releasing Your Mothers Hold on You
- Recognize and understand the emotional and behavioral triggers that keep you tied to your mother’s influence.
- Learn techniques to reclaim your personal power and autonomy, separating your identity from your mother's control.
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Week 6 - Grieving the Mother You Needed, but Never Had
- Explore the stages of grief and how they apply to mourning the mother you never had but needed.
- Identify and articulate the specific emotional, physical, and psychological needs that went unmet due to your mother's narcissism.
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Week 7 Healing Your Inner child
- Explore and identify specific younger parts that hold significant memories, emotions, or experiences from your past.
- Establish a mental and emotional safe space where your younger parts can feel protected and loved, encouraging healing and integration.
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Week 8 Integrating Your Voice
- Create a plan for how to incorporate your authentic self into daily life, including strategies for maintaining boundaries and self-care routines.
This Program Includes:
❣️ Weekly 90-Minute Sessions: We will meet once a week for a 90-minute session. Each session is carefully structured to foster deep discussion, learning, and support.
❣️ Homework Assignments: Each week, you will receive homework assignments related to the topic of the week. These assignments are designed to deepen your understanding and personal reflection. You will need to complete and submit your homework before our next session. This ensures that our discussions are meaningful and grounded in your personal experiences and insights.
❣️ Group Discussions: During our sessions, we will discuss the weekly topics as a group. Sharing your experiences and listening to others can provide powerful insights and foster a sense of community and shared understanding. The group will consist of five women, plus myself, creating an intimate and safe space for open dialogue.
❣️ Exercises and Visualizations: Throughout the program, you will learn various exercises and visualizations that are tailored to each week’s theme. These techniques are designed to help you connect with your inner self, process emotions, and cultivate resilience. We will practice these together during our sessions, and you will also be encouraged to integrate them into your daily life.
❣️ Personalized Support: Although the program is group-based, I am committed to providing personalized support and guidance to each participant. The small group size ensures that everyone receives individual attention and has the opportunity to share and reflect.
What My Clients Are Saying
“Vevian is truly a remarkable soul. Her wisdom goes far beyond her years. Her energy is bright, warm and welcoming. It is hard to put into words what she has done for me. She helped me rediscover myself in a way I never knew possible. I feel lighter, happier, and so much love. But most importantly, I no longer feel the need to suppress my emotions and I feel like I can finally live my life the way I have always wanted to. I feel eager to create meaningful and deeper bonds with the people in my life who I have often pushed away. I feel like I can finally LIVE!”
-Anonymous
“I had no trust in myself. I doubted my thoughts, feelings, and decisions at every turn. I couldn’t get past my fears of judgement and failure to even begin to feel confident in myself. I was completely stuck and terrified to make a move.
Then I met Vevian. From the beginning, her energy, vibe, and straightforward approach inspired and invigorated me. She saw the big picture and was able to help me work through some intense things with ease.
She is your biggest cheerleader.
Vevian has helped me so incredibly much!”
-Rebecca
“The pain and trauma I experienced as a child and early adult left me harboring anger and shame. I moved on from one life stage to another living in survival mode without allowing myself joy or rest. The unsympathetic way I treated myself permeated to my closest relationships.
Releasing those deep stored emotions has given me a great deal of understanding and compassion for myself. I'm so grateful to Vevian.”
-Estelle
“I am so grateful to you for helping me overcome a lot of challenges. Your encouragement and compassion, understanding, and guidance to get unstuck in parts of my communication and helping me accept more of the parts of me that I had a difficult time with has been a beautiful sigh of relief. You have a special way of making people feel comfortable, seen, and heard. You listen really well and allow a very safe space for
someone to open up.”
-Norell
By the end of this program, you will have gained valuable tools, insights, and support to help you heal from the past, find your authentic voice, and build a more fulfilling and empowered life.
Are you ready to Find Your Voice?
